Love an arched between failure and success. I have come across people blaming love, “Love ruined it”, “love is bad” and many negativity relating to most pure and lustful form of emotion. Love is always misunderstood with a person for whom one strongly feels. It’s not love what goes wrong but it’s the person who goes wrong.
Before just extending far down let’s just know what is love. Cause today’s youth has just named it an emotion for gratification.
Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection to pleasure. It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment. It can also be a virtue representing human kindness, compassion, and affection—”the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”.It may also describe compassionate and affectionate actions towards other humans, one’s self or animals. It is an “international language” that overrides cultural and linguistic divisions.
There are basically two types of love –
1. Impersonal – A person can be said to love an object, principle, or goal to which they are deeply committed and greatly value.
-> This is considered healthy. The love and passion for your work and the fire and desire to get it can always help you achieve your goals. Love towards objects or goals is considered pure cause one is supposed to love them for self benefits.
2. Interpersonal love refers to love between human beings. It is a much more potent sentiment than a simple liking for another. Unrequited love refers to those feelings of love that are not reciprocated.
-> There are again three parts to it. Lust, attraction and Attachment.
In recent days relationships are seem to based on lust – the sexual desire for your partners. Attachment seems to lack and where attachment is there people tend to move out with the fear of handling the commitment. Lust seems to last for about 6 months to 3 years ranging on your matting time but that does not guarantee the attachment and the strength of the bond you share with the person.
Studies says that lust is the hunger for sexual desire for pleasures and is found only in humans and dolphins.
Due to this desire we humans end up being in a trap of lust and thus relationships at many ends fail cause people don’t seem to give time in building attachment.
Friendship tend to last long cause of attachment. But relationships with mates don’t, and if it does people move out for bad cause of unwillingness to handle it blaming it all on love.
No relationship is impossible. It’s just our personal attitude towards it. In our own selfish attitude at times we lose on best people of our life unknowingly and being with the wrong one’s without notice.
Love is a pure feeling which will help you mature. From past experiences and people in surroundings I have understood that when u see pure love coming from someone its the time you appreciate it and respect it cause its difficult to find it. Even after things going bad if you can carry a soft corner for someone then it’s truly love and the most pure form of feelings and emotion and do respect it. But yes you can’t love someone more than they let you. Just learn to Date your Destiny.
We have been surrounded by people who will love and hurt you at the same time. So forgive them no matter what. Firstly the person is confused in one’s self not sure of his own gut feeling. Secondly it’s better to be free from grudges rather than wearing them on your sleeves. Thirdly, “You heal with sensuality and destroy with sweet pain”.
So on conclusion I feel everything comes with a baggage. And so does people. It’s not love what is bad it’s the person who turned bad. Love, live and let live. You can keep loving the person without expectations and see how life becomes a bed of happiness. Cause it’s not necessary for the wind to flow same at both ends.
More important is loving ur own-self. Cause when you do that you come closer to your soul. That’s the utmost relationship and that is going to last till death bed. Let your soul smile your love and life will be a blanket of happiness attracting all the freshness besides. Bad past is already past so be ready to explore the world of crazy sexy souls. And let love be a pure feeling without associating it with people.
Wear your heart on your sleeves. Smile no matter what cause its worth it.